DOUG DIBBER. T ' 70. president
STEVE SHAW ' 82, director of finance and administration
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LISA BEERS, controller
DAVE DONALDSON, mail room. 962-3979 PRISCILLA FULCHER., assistant to the president
MAR.VCATHERINE KURZENSKI, alumni center coord.
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TOM MAY, print shop coordinator
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SHANNON SELLERS-HARTY ' 97, coord. of marketing
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JESSICA DEAR.!) ' 99, coordinator of alumni travel
SALLIE HUTTON, coordinator of alumni reunions
RAy LINVILLE ' 67, manager of alumni education
MIKE LUDWICK, coordinator of student membership
TANEA PETTIS ' 95, coordinator of student programs
LINDA RAINEY ' 95 (MAl, manager of alwnni activities
KEITCHA ROYAL ' 96, coordinator of alumni clubs
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TRACY CHRISMON, records assistant
STARLA GLENN, records assistant s,"rla_~lerm@m,.edll;
DEIUK HUNTER, records assistant
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JULIE TROTTER ' 85, records assistant
Live Intentionally to Reach Goals
of the top-ranked women in tennis,
I Venus and Serena Williams, know what
they want, and they go after it. Their journey
to fame started years ago, when they both
decided that some day they would win the
Wimbledon tennis tournament.
Imagine the power of that intention - it
set off a chain reaction of choices, energy,
resources and effort, all directed toward mak-
ing the intention a reality.
As the Williams sisters told Oprah Winfrey
in a recent interview, "Tennis is mostly men-
tal.You win or lose the match before you
even go out there."
The game of life is mostly mental, too.
Whether you think you can or you think you
can't, you are right.
Think about your life. Are you living by
design or default? Do you have any idea what
you want to accomplish? What is your inten-
tion? What are you willing to do to make it
happen? Where are you putting your energy;>
Think big, really big.
You need to know who you are and what's
really important to you. You have to name it
before you can claim it. If you can't articulate
what you want, you can't achieve it. To say
that you want to be successful is not enough;
be specific. Tell someone you trust about what
you want to do. Putting words to your ideas
helps to make them a reality.
Decide what you need to do to get what
you want. Determine the steps necessary to
reach your goals. If you want to write the
great American novel, what will it take? Do
you need to write four hours a day, hide out
with your computer for a few months, find an
editor, get a support system or all of the
above? Whatever it takes, program yourself to
do it. Anyone can be successful. It is a matter
of wanting it and then doing what it takes to
To live intentionally, you need to guard
against self-sabotaging beliefs. "I'm not good
enough." "If I make me a priority, people will
think I am self-centered." "It's pushy to go for
what I want." "People won't like me if I am
m.ore successful than they are." Critical self-
talk will create a sense of worthlessness and
limit your ability to have the life you want.
Learn to talk back to that inner critic. Be
aware of negative
thoughts that take
over and find ways
to replace them
with positive self-
talk. ''I'm a good
manager or writer or accountant." "I cannot
control what other people think about me."
"When I am successful, I can help other peo-
Also be aware of the "Not if I have to
mindset. It goes like this:"I want to be a top
athlete, but not if I have to practice every
day." "I want to have my own business, but
not if I have to write a business plan." " 1 want
to change careers, but not if I have to take a
pay cut.""I want to have a healthy relation-
ship, but not if 1have to shift my priorities."
"I want it, but I don't want to work that hard
to get it."
Being intentional helps you keep your
focus. It keeps you from getting side-tracked.
If you have a talent for painting but your
works are not selling, the answer is not to
become a computer programmer. Instead,
focus on what you do well and get help with
the other aspects of your business. Do you
need an agent, more contacts, more publicity,
more exposure, a different subject matter,
lower prices or higher prices? Think about
what you need to do.
Having a clear intention also increases your
awareness. The more you know what you
want, the more you will notice and respond
to opportunities you may have missed before.
What is showing up on your radar screen
right now? How can you make the most of
Life offers no guarantees, but being inten-
tional helps you keep moving toward an end
that you have chosen. As you put one foot in
front of the other, you realize that the jour-
ney is far more important than the destina-
Unda Conklinisthe GAAs manager of Alumni Career Services.
For information on career-related issues, contact her at
(919) 962-3749 or bye-mail at email@example.com.
More of her advice and other career-related information
can be found on the Career Services section of the GMs
Web site: alumni.unc.edu/career.
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