OFF1CERS Richard Y Stevens ' 70, Car), ...... Chair William P.Aycock II ' 65, creemboro .. lmmed.PostChair Berry Ray McCa.in ' 52, Wilsall . ...... Chair-Elect Richard T"Stick" Williams ' 75, OIlljJd Hill .FirstVice Chair Howard Wayne Owen ' 71, Ric/IIIIOlld, 111. Second VIce Om Anthony Eden Rand ' 61, Fayetteville. . . Treasurer Anne Wilmoth Cates ' 53, Chapel Hill .. Asst. Treasurer James G. ExumJr. ' 57, Greensboro . ....... Counsel Douglas S. Dibbert ' 70, Chapel Hill ..... President TAR H EEL N ETWORK CHAIRMAN Thomas W. Lambeth ' 57 ........ Winston-Salem DIRECTORS Appoillfed at Large Michael Denard Kennedy ' 79 (2001) ..Atlanta William E."Ed" McMahan ' 66 (2001) .. Charlotte Wendy Sue Gebauer ' 89 (2002) ....... Chapel Hill Paula Renee Newsome ' 77 (2002) ....... Charlotte John Gray Blowlt Ellison ' 69 (2003) .... Greensboro George Waslllngron Miller Jr. ' 52 (2003) ... Durham Elected to Represent N C. Districts 1. M.W. PeeblesJr. ' 51 (2001) .Southern Shores 2.A.Jackson Harrell III ' 66 (2001) ...... K.inston 3. Barbara B. R.ichardson ' 78 (2002) .... Fayetteville 4. Eleanor Saunders Morris ' 55 (2003) .. Chapel Hill 5. George Watts Carr III ' 64 (2003) .... Greensboro 6. W. Borden Hooks Jr. ' 67 (2002) ... ... .Mount Airy 7.James G. Whitton ' 54 (2002) ..........Salisbury 8. Marjorie M. Schwab ' 69 (2001) . . .Charlotte 9. Kelvin C. Harris ' 82 (2001) ...... . .Gastonia 10. Philip Gary Carson ' 63 (2003) . . ..Asheville Elected to Represent O"t-oIState A lllln,.,i lvanV"Andy"Anderson ' 61 (2001) ....Charleston, SC Benjamine"Ben" Reid ' 71 (2001) ...... . .Miann, FL Carol Payne Young ' 66 (2001) ...Atlanta, GA Charles A. Bryan ' 82 (2002) ........Baltimore, MD John L. Haber ' 70 (2002) .............New York Ann Earnhardt Murry ' 72 (2002) ...Potomac, MD R.ichard Fuller Callaway ' 71 (2003) .. Houston, TX Patricia Timko Sinclair 'S2 (2003) ..Los Angeles, CA E.James Wiley III ' 86 (2003) .......R.ichmond,VA Ex Officio, Representing tlte St"de"" Body R. Bradley Matthews '01 ... President, Student Body Matthew Brent Dees '01 ...Editor, TIle Daily Tar Heel Jason Harris Cowley '01 ... President, Senior Class Nicholas 0 Detmer '01 .. Pres., Order ofthe BelJTower Ex o.tJicio, Representing the Fawlt)' Chuck Stone . . . . . . . . . . . .Chapel Hill Presidents if School A I"mni Associations (Ex Officio) Robert R. Gelbllu:n ' 85, City &Reg'l Planning ..Raleigh Randy Gerrel Fusse1 'S6, Dentistry ...... Greenville Nancy Farmer ' 69, Education .... . . .Chapel Hill Seth Effron ' 74,journalism .. ... ...... .Raleigh Charles Palmer Brown ' 64, Law .. AlbermarJe Martlla B. Barefoot 'S4, Infu. & Libr. Science . .Chapel Hill Paul Edward Viser 'SO, Medicine .... Clinton Carolyn). Graham ' 97 (PhD), Nursing ... Chapel Hill John R . Setzer ' 83, Pharmacy. . ....... Cary Jessica Kostryu ' 95, Pbys. Therapy ..Durham Kristin R. Siebenaler ' 92 (MPA), Pub.Admin. Chapel Hill Timothy D. Neil K.ing ' 96, Public Health ... Durham Lyn Green 'Sl, Social Work ...... Fayetteville Aillmlli on the Atldetic COll/"lcil (Elected at Large) Gayle Bomar ' 69 (2001) .Durham Lindsey Jane Linker ' 80 (2002) .... Chapel Hill Bradley Lee Daugherty ' 86 (2003) ....Atlanta, GA
Work Break: Give Your Life a Massage
We all know that a meaningful career is important; however, it is only one part of your life-and a
part where fulfillment depends as much on
what's going on ot,ttside the work world. Often
we get so caught up in the demands of earn-
ing a living that we forget to look at the big
picture. This is your life; it is not a dress
How can you live your life so that if you
had it to do over again, you wouldn't change a
thing? Believe that what you do matters and
will make a difference. Here are some sugges-
tions for living a life that you will love in the
Be clear on what you want from life. What
really matters to you?What are your true abil-
ities? What do you value? What do you love
to do?You must nanle it before you can claim
it. Knowing what you want will help you to
focus on what actions to take. Program your-
self to do it.
Commit to lifelong learning. Do at least
one thing every day that stretches and chal-
lenges you. Get out ofyour comfort zone. Be
open to possibilities. Discover a new talent or
gift. Maintaining tbe status quo is dangerous.
You cannot become what you want to be by
remaining what you are. Share your knowl-
Listen to yourself and trust what you hear.
On some level, we all know the answers to our
problems. Trust your intuition. Ask yourself
what would help you right now. What one
action could you take that would solve most
of your problems? Do it.
Tolerate nothing. SimplifY everything.
Make a list of25 things that you are putting
up with - a broken umbrella, a messy office,
an unhealthy relationship. Take care of unfin-
ished business. Start with the easy things first
and work your way through the list. You will
be surprised at how much more energy you
have as you get rid of the things that are clut-
tering your life.
Ask. Ask for what you want-a bug, a
raise, help, more. Ask others what they want
from you; you may be surprised at the
answers. The worst thing is not getting what
you want but never asking at all.
Change your attitude and change your life.
Develop a can-do approach. Shift your per-
spective. Is your glass half-full or half-empty?
The choice is up to you.
Create standards and boundaries. Standards
are the values to which you hold yourself.
Boundaries are the limits you set for other
people's behavior. Be clear about what you are
willing to accept. Communicate your bound-
with li NDA C ONKLIN
Laugh - often and hard. Tell a joke. Find
the humor in a situation rather than tbe hurt.
Create fun experiences for yourself. Recognize
the rewards of being light.
Underpromise and overdeliver. R ecognize
what you can do and learn to say no to unrea-
sonable commitments. Instead of disappoint-
ing people, you will actually be able to give
them more than they expected.
Live in the moment. Live passionately.
Wherever you are, be there fully. Don't get
preoccupied with the past or the future. Let
go of the outcome. Celebrate eacb day for the
learning it brings.
Build a reserve-in money, love, friends,
space, time, whatever you need. Are you living
a lifestyle that keeps you trapped from pay-
check to paycheck? Find ways to cut expenses
and start saving. Develop a community of car-
ing friends. Be selfish about your time. Stop
making crisis management the focus ofyour
Be grateful for what you have before you
ask for something more. Don't take life's gifts
for granted. Count your blessings. Experience
gratitude every day for all the things large and
small that enrich your life- the ability to
walk without pain, a phone call from a friend,
a compliment, a job well done.
Measure your success by your own ruler.
Don't be bound by other people's standards;
define what it means for you. Success is not
necessarily money, a big house or other flashy
status symbols. If you believe you are a success,
Focus on the right things. Ifsomething
does not add value to your life, eliminate it.
Don't get hung up on insignificant details.
Handle the important stuff and delegate the
Last but not least, be kind to yourself. Do
something special just for you every day-go
for a walk, get a massage, read a book. Spend
time with the people who are important to
you. Let go of what you cannot controL Listen
to your own wisdom.
Linda Conklin is the GAA 5 coordinator of
A lumni Career Services. For information on career-
relaled issues, contact her 01 (919) 962-3749 or by
e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org
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